A divorce, in the first place can be a very traumatic experience for both parties to the marriage. The negativity that surrounds a divorced couple in Indian society, can at times, be very humiliating. In order to deal with the same, friends and well-wishers, more often than not, advise the couple to move on. Be it peer pressure, or self-loathing, a lot of people do give it a second chance and dive into the matrimonial ties for a second time, however, more often than not, only to be disappointed.
Surprisingly, there also exist matrimonial sites in the name of ‘secondshaadi.com’ who assist divorced people in finding their matches for a second time. On the site, one can find divorced people as young as 23 years old from Indore. Advice from experienced professionals of the field can play a crucial role in such scenarios. Therefore, consult the best divorce lawyers in Indore.
There have been several studies and reports on why second marriages are more likely to fail. Reasons, as explained by marriage counsellors can be manifold.
The primary reason in most cases is that the foundation of the marriage is often not the desire for companionship, rather a rebound from the previous break up. Many a time, it can even be due to pressure put by the society. Divorced women are especially advised to get remarried, for they believe that she wouldn’t be able to sustain herself alone or that the children need a father etc.
Also, a divorced person is more likely to engage in a second marriage with another divorced, not by choice, but because, in most cases, that is the only option available to them since bachelors are mostly very apprehensive about tying knots with divorcees. Since, both the parties are not new to the phenomenon of divorce, taking the step of separation isn’t as scary as the first time and they go for it easily.
Also, they are likely to be older couples at an age where they are not so keen on having children. As a result, there is no incentive for continuing the relationship because of the lack of involvement of a third person. A lot of couples in India, even today, decided against taking a divorce, only for the sake of their children. The absence of this binding factor, makes it easier for the couple to break their marriage ties.
The presence of children from the previous marriage can also be a matter of controversy between the couple, especially if there are children from the second marriage as well. There could be ugly spats between them for property and inheritance related matters. The second spouse may also not approve of the time and attention given to children from the previous marriage and the spouse for matters concerning the children they have in common.
Moreover, after a divorce a person tends to become skeptical of the people around her/him, possibly because he/she has also been betrayed in the past. The hurt from the previous relation does not allow the person to be completely secure and there is always the apprehension of history repeating itself. Since the second may not appreciate such skepticism, this can be a bone of contention between them and eventually lead to the same result as the first marriage.
The most unfortunate thing about a second marriage is that, the wife is no longer entitled to maintenance from the husband. The Hindu Marriage Act, 1955 provides for maintenance to be given to the spouse only until the time he/she is unmarried and not capable of supporting himself or herself. Even though maintenance for children can continue to be demanded, post the second marriage, the spouse is no longer entitled to get maintenance.
sBut, a lot of Indian women have found a smart way to escape this situation. On getting a divorce from the first husband, they demand payment of a lump sum amount as one-time payment for alimony. Another reason to choose alimony over regular maintenance is that, while the former is taxable, the latter is exempt from taxation.
According to a study in the United States, while first marriages have a divorce rate of 67%, second marriages have a divorce rate of 73%. The reasons could be one or more of the ones mentioned above. Therefore, one should think twice while weighing all pros and cons, and more importantly ask oneself whether that is what he/she really wants, before marrying again.